07-04-2009, 11:38 PM
So much of our culture has immoralized the youth, myself included. We've made finding a mate a joke. A game for our recreation. Boys who have yet to even prepare themselves for taking on the responsibilities of man want to do the things of a man. A boy wants to seek an intimate relationship with a girl and yet can he provide for her? Is he ready and able to be the spiritual head of his household? Is he willing to sacrifice for her sake...with his own life if it were necessary? We let ourselves be driven by emotions of the heart and yet we are told that the heart is deceitfully wicked. To act in such a manner is foolish and arrogant. If you are not following the path of a man then you have no right to seek anyone's hand.
So I will say this for myself. I will seek no one's hand at this time. I will devote myself to my studies...both educational and scriptural. I will continue to work and hone myself into what the Lord would have me be. And when I am ready and the time comes when I find a woman I know to be virtuous and godly and I desire a relationship with her...I will seek out her father first. For until a woman is given in marriage, she is her father's child and to go above him is a dishonor. I will pray and speak to him of the matter. If she is without father, I will seek out the appropriate elder just the same. And once and if my intentions are honored, I will seek out a relationship with her. And if/when we decide that it is good...I will marry. Dating as the world around us would have it is a farce and is a path numerous problems and downfalls, not the least of which resulting in lustful and ungodly actions.
I hope others will think on this as well.
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So I will say this for myself. I will seek no one's hand at this time. I will devote myself to my studies...both educational and scriptural. I will continue to work and hone myself into what the Lord would have me be. And when I am ready and the time comes when I find a woman I know to be virtuous and godly and I desire a relationship with her...I will seek out her father first. For until a woman is given in marriage, she is her father's child and to go above him is a dishonor. I will pray and speak to him of the matter. If she is without father, I will seek out the appropriate elder just the same. And once and if my intentions are honored, I will seek out a relationship with her. And if/when we decide that it is good...I will marry. Dating as the world around us would have it is a farce and is a path numerous problems and downfalls, not the least of which resulting in lustful and ungodly actions.
I hope others will think on this as well.
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